Nice Elizabeth article today

in the San Francisco Chronicle. I mean 'nice' here in the sense that the writer took the time to listen to some critics,

"You have to look out for other people in this life,'' Guy Smith, a Chronicle reader from Alameda, told me. "If I were in his shoes, I would abandon the campaign and spend time with the woman I love.''

and then he took the time to go further, to look into the deeper dynamics of a life with chronic illness.

That was a lovely thought with all the right intentions. But according to the cancer survivors, counselors and therapists I spoke to, it has just one problem -- it is dead wrong.

The author, C.W. Nevius, interviewed several women and all sounded like this,

Barbara Frey of Piedmont missed the Edwardses' news conference. She was undergoing chemotherapy for her own stage 4 cancer, and she is now in her third year of chemo. She thinks Edwards is absolutely making the right decision.

"It is crazy to think of dropping out now,'' she said. "It is crazy for the public to look at her as a nearly dead woman who needs tea and sympathy. What she really needs to do is go on with her life. And that ought to include the things that bring you joy. Clearly, being on the campaign trail brought her joy.''

The author's efforts reward the reader with the view from the survivor's seat. He gives the reader a peek at the life, attitudes and realities of folks with Elizabeth's type of cancer, and in the end he offers their critics some advice I found to be very very wise,

More than 10 million people are battling cancer in this country today. They'll listen to your advice if they must, and they'll put up with well-meaning expressions of sorrow and disappointment.

But at the end of the day, we all have to confront the illness in our own way.

The Edwardses did it Thursday, standing on the national stage and announcing that they have decided to continue with their lives, regardless. Some might see that as cynical or self-absorbed. That's your call.

But I can tell you what someone who deals with stage 4 cancer every single day thinks.

"I think,'' said Frey, who will need chemotherapy for the rest of her life, "it is tremendously courageous of them.''

Who are you to disagree?

Having never been very close to someone with an illness such as Elizabeth's, I learned much from this article. Thought I'd share this author's insights, just in case there are others like me out there. Enjoy.

Comments

They only people I've heard criticizing this decision

fall into two categories. On one hand, they want a reason to criticize the Edwards no matter what. And on the other hand, they seem afraid of people who choose to live full-throttle.

I know lots of cancer survivors, including several with very similar diagnoses as Elizabeth. They all admire her choice.

You're right, A.

Some folks are going to pick pick pick like little children no matter what.

I just wanted to get the deeper, more reality based perspective out there to a wider audience here in NC.

Does this mean I have San Francisco values?

"They took all the trees and put them in a tree museum Then they charged the people a dollar 'n a half just to see 'em. Don't it always seem to go that you don't know what you've got till it's gone? They paved paradise and put up a parking lot."

"tremendously courageous "

Indeed it is "tremendously courageous" of Elizabeth and John to continue on with this campaign. A very selfless act. They care deeply about our country, those in poverty around the globe and all of us.



"The campaign will continue on strongly!"

I took this photo yesterday at the press conference in Chapel Hill.

Wow! Great pic!

That picture is worth 10,000 words, at least.

I am so proud of Elizabeth and John. What can we do, but redouble our efforts on their behalf.

Beautiful picture!

Elizabeth looks strong and ready to keep on going, and John is looking at her with what looks to be pride mixed with concern and love.

his face

it has all those things you mentioned like pride and love, but the biggest thing is admiration. she is his hero. you can see it in his face so completely. she seems resigned to fate in the sense that she is going to spend every minute possible for the rest of her life changing the world. I get the impression she doesnt care how much time she has left, she is going to do everything she can to make sure it is enough time.

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"Keep the Faith"

Truly

this picture does speak one thousand words. Most excellent, NCDem.

"They took all the trees and put them in a tree museum Then they charged the people a dollar 'n a half just to see 'em. Don't it always seem to go that you don't know what you've got till it's gone? They paved paradise and put up a parking lot."

They Chose Life

When you learn that you have cancer you have a choice to make: to live your life to the fullest or to surrender to the cancer. For awhile yesterday I was afraid (for them and for all of us) that they would surrender, but today I'm as proud of my candidate and his wife as I can be.

another quote

As somebody who has been through this, Elizabeth Edwards is setting a powerful example for a lot of people — a good and positive one.

Who said that? Tony Snow. Tony Freaking Snow.

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"Keep the Faith"