LGBT
The Seventh Commandment Brigade
Submitted by usernamehere on Wed, 08/13/2008 - 6:28pm.Because the NC Family Policy is so concerned about defending marriage, I'm going to help start a new allied group (like the good folks at www.returnamerica.org).
It's time for.....THE SEVENTH COMMANDMENT BRIGADE
Jim Neal: Kids in NC get thrown under the bus
Submitted by Pam Spaulding on Mon, 07/21/2008 - 12:01pm.Former NC U.S. Senate candidate Jim Neal shared a very personal story on Pam's House Blend that conveys why an anti-bullying bill should have passed in our state.
As has been reported the NC Senate's failure to pass anti-bullying legislation despite having the votes intact is disappointing shows a disturbing and unacceptable lack of courage and compassion. They threw kids in the state of North Carolina under the bus when they had an opportunity to protect them.
Anti-bullying bill killed
Submitted by Pam Spaulding on Fri, 07/18/2008 - 12:17pm.Unbelievable. Let's just look at this from the 30,000-foot view. How on earth is it controversial to protect children from harassment and violence? (N&O):
Sen. Doug Berger, a Franklin County Democrat, said the bullying bill will not be approved this session.The bill was controversial because it listed "sexual orientation" and other characteristics as reasons schoolchildren might be the targets of bullying. Groups such as the Christian Action League and the N.C. Family Policy Council did not want the term in state law, saying that gay-rights groups would use it to leverage other rights.
We tied the knot four years ago today
Submitted by Pam Spaulding on Tue, 07/01/2008 - 9:16am.| July 1, 2004 Eleven o'clock in the morning at the Apricot Cat and Black Dog Bed & Breakfast in Vancouver, British Columbia, Canada |
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This post is a flashback describing our trip to lovely Vancouver to tie the knot back in 2004. Who knew that we would see the day when our marriage would be recognized in the United States? Our marriage is recognized in a few states (and as a civil union or domestic partnership in others), but we're second class citizens in NC. Here at home we still have no hate crimes or employment protections (never mind benefits); there isn't even an anti-bullying law that protects LGBT students yet (more on a critical vote today here).
As Kate and I take time to celebrate our union, we also celebrate all the recent marriages in California; may the voters in that state turn away the disgusting amendment that will be on the ballot in November and preserve marriage equality in the Golden State. Good luck as well to Arizona and Florida advocates of our right to marry -- may those voters turn away the hate amendments at the polls as well.
Marriage equality continues to thrive in small pockets in our country, and one of the best ways we can cultivate support and effect change is to bring those marriages back home where these commitments are not legally recognized. Not to challenge the legal wrong, mind you (it's going to be decided by the U.S. Supreme Court in the end), but to become visible married couples in our communities - living marriage out of the closet before our friends, neighbors, and work colleagues.
Visibility challenges assumptions; show willingness to explain to potential allies how your legal-somewhere-else marriage is denied where you live.
The fact is we will prove by example that our relationships will not cause an end to anyone else's marriage or destroy society, and it will move all of us closer to full civil equality.
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That year we wrote Senator Elizabeth Dole and the White House about our opposition to the Federal Marriage Amendment and received these responses (note how the form letter from Dole addressed us as "Catharine and Pamela Spaulding" -- what an irony!). Dole | Bush
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I love you, Katie...
Our blast-from-the-past photo album is up at my pad.
Asheville coalition to oppose notorious conference that hawks 'ex-gay' therapy
Submitted by Pam Spaulding on Thu, 06/26/2008 - 9:44pm.My friend Wayne Besen at Truth Wins Out, a non-profit founded to combat the junk science and propaganda of the infamous professional "ex-gay" movement, is joining forces with a coalition of North Carolina organizations to produce a counter-symposium to the conference being held by Exodus International in Asheville in July.
While you might find the idea of "praying away the gay" outlandish, the fact is that Exodus and other "ex-gay" organizations prey upon individuals who are coming to terms with their sexual orientation; many are often in conflict because of the anti-gay messages the have received from fundamentalist family and friends.
2008 Blogging for LGBT Families day
Submitted by Pam Spaulding on Mon, 06/02/2008 - 7:34am.
Today is the Third Annual Blogging for LGBT Families Day, an occasion to celebrate the beauty of non-traditional families. Kate and I are a child-free couple, but we're doting aunts, and completely out of the closet to those we love. It means that nieces and nephews will grow up knowing us without a thought to our orientation, that it's not a dark family secret or a guessing game.
The existence of thriving LGBT families of all shapes and sizes is a grave threat to the Dominionists who see life and love through a very narrow religious worldview, as if morality and good child-rearing is only present in a mother/father parented family. Even though all sorts of configurations of families exist -- grandparents raising children, single parents, etc. -- we have seen an obsessive focus by the right on denying LGBTs the ability to adopt or foster children, and to deny committed same-sex couples to marry, even though these are culturally and socially stabilizing institutions.
North Carolina's constitution is under attack -- 2008 edition
Submitted by Pam Spaulding on Thu, 05/15/2008 - 10:32am.(UPDATE: As California celebrates its marriage equality victory, freeper and fundie heads are exploding. If only Tar Heels could celebrate equality here. Makes me think about packing my bags sometimes.)
Will gubernatorial candidates Pat McCrory and Beverly Perdue weigh in on Sen. Jim Forrester's (R) latest attempt to enshrine discrimination into my state's constitution? Senate Bill 1608 was introduced by the Gaston lawmaker one day into the legislative session. Clearly he has different priorities than most of NC's residents. Equality NC:
Just one day into the 2008 legislative session, Sen. Jim Forrester (R-Gaston) once again filed an anti-LGBT, anti-marriage state constitutional amendment. A similar bill is expected in the state House. Equality North Carolina is working to defeat these attempts to write discrimination into our state constitution.The proposed bill mirrors those introduced in the last four sessions, which Equality North Carolina and our allies have successfully blocked.
"We can't let our guard down this year," said Ian Palmquist, Executive Director. "The far right would like nothing better than to put this amendment on the ballot and turn out radical conservative voters for the 2008 elections. We can't let Sen. Forrester and his cronies play politics with our lives, our rights, and our families."
The amendment would not only prohibit same-sex marriage-which is already not recognized in the state under current law-but would also ban any other form of relationship recognition for same-sex couples. In fact, the language is so broad it could prevent private companies from offering partner health benefits.
Equality North Carolina is actively lobbying against the amendment and is calling on supporters to contact their legislators.
You can send a message to legislators through Equality North Carolina's web site:
http://eqfed.org/campaign/amendment08
The sponsors of Senate Bill 1608 are below the fold.
Cleaning out the think tank
Submitted by Pam Spaulding on Mon, 05/12/2008 - 12:34pm.It was pretty clear to me that the threadjacking of the Kay Hagan thank you post went completely off the rails on several fronts, spurred by the reposting of my "infamous" questions from her April liveblog by Linda.
It was a case of Bizarro World and deja vu for me, so I decided to put the questions back out there, and examine some of the exchanges and my interpretation of them from the thank you thread, and asked readers outside of the BlueNC think tank to give their feedback.
http://pandagon.blogsome.com/2008/05/12/nc-dems-party-like-its-2004/
http://www.pamshouseblend.com/showDiary.do?diaryId=5340
Feel free to come back and comment here.
Q-Notes presidential 'Primary Picks' series kicks off - with my endorsement
Submitted by Pam Spaulding on Mon, 04/28/2008 - 2:11pm.[Sorry folks, no downticket endorsements yet....]
It's getting down to the final days before North Carolina's primary on May 6, so Matt Hill Comer of the Tar Heel gay news outlet Q-Notes is featuring NC LGBT leaders and their presidential race picks. The format features two endorsements per day, one from a Clinton supporter, one from an Obama supporter.
I was asked to contribute and the result probably isn't a surprise to anyone at this point. It's below the fold.
Update on fracas over LGBT protections for state workers
Submitted by Pam Spaulding on Wed, 04/16/2008 - 10:49am.
On Tuesday I discussed Equality NC's announcement that the State Personnel Commission had added protections for workers based on sexual orientation and gender identity and expression to the 2008 State Personnel Manual.
Not long after that change went up on the state web site, the local anti-gay machinery went into high gear. Homo-obsessed House Minority Leader Rep. Paul Stam (pauls@ncleg.net) and the anti-gay bible beaters at the NC Family Policy Council publicly called for the removal of the fairness language. Because of a matter of the difference between "rules" and "policies" in the state, there's now a tussle over what this change means, as the non-discrimination policy has been adopted by the State Personnel Commission and it has not rescinded it.
In the end, the language adding the protections has been stripped from the web site over the fracas.
ENC Executive Director Ian Palmquist explains below the fold, as well as a look at the pro-LGBT candidate in the wings ready to unseat Stam.










